Every so often you’ll come across somebody who is completely satisfied with their lot. Then, one day, something happens to upset the equilibrium. Perhaps new skills are required and confidence takes a knock. Although acquiring new skills can represent a temporary hurdle, sometimes the bigger problem is the lack of confidence.

Sometimes we make jobs much bigger than they are as a way of diverting attention to our anxiety instead of trying to face our goals. Whenever you try something new and you feel like you run the risk of failing, you can cut your anxiety down by pinpointing what it is you really have to get done and in what order. If you do fail to achieve something, try again- Failure isn’t an end. It’s very much part of the learning process. Chances are your first bite was too big, try smaller steps until you taste success, then celebrate it and off you go-revitalised.

By dividing the overall process into smaller pieces, and then by acknowledging and completing each task in turn, you can start to rebuild your confidence. Start with the most manageable task and when you’re rewarded by success, celebrate! Make the celebration of success a focus. Write it down. Get it done. Then cross it out and put a star next to it. You’ve started a journey on the road to self-confidence.

Experts say it takes 28 days to form a new habit, and even longer to ditch an old one. If you don’t have that kind of time, try to eradicate habits such as “I’ve always done it this way,” or “I’ll never remember.” –just go for it!

Remember, self-confidence flows from positive actions, so aim for the stars but take realistic steps along the way!

7 Comments to “Make things really small!”

  1. John Edwards says:

    Hi Mike,

    I couldn`t agree more, in the past i have suffered terribly from having no confidence and being afraid of failing, but the strange thing is , more than the learning curve its info like this!

    Cheers for that Mike….Ed.

  2. Mandy Allen says:

    Hi Mike, nice little link to your product there. Great post, thank you.

    Enjoy the journey.


  3. Hi Mike,

    This is my first visit to your blog and I just signed up for this report. Can’t wait to read it! Looking forward to visiting again. Keep the posts coming!


  4. Simon says:

    Hi Mike

    Some great advice in this post, taking small steps and completing them does build your self confidence.

    Have a great life


  5. Mike Mott says:


    Thanks for that. I really appreciate the comment.

    Kind regards


  6. Mike Mott says:


    You’re very kind. Best of luck with your blog too!



  7. Julie Newman says:

    Hi Mike,

    I enjoyed reading your post. Letting go of your anxieties can be hard but as you stated, “pinpointing what it is you really have to get done and in what order” really speeds up the process.

    One step at a time,

    ~ Julie

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