Mike on October 31st, 2011

If you’re in business, you’re obviously a supremely confident person-right?

Whatever the answer is to that loaded question, the fact is that sometimes we all struggle to meet our own self imposed targets and over time this can affect our self confidence.

Creative visualisation is one popular technique that can help people achieve their goals, the idea being that you repeatedly envision a desired outcome. For example, if you are a golfer, you would visualise yourself sinking a put perfectly.

It’s important to visualise yourself being really successful at whatever it is that is causing you a problem. By touching the thumb and forefinger of the same hand together whilst you are experiencing the positive feelings (in order to imprint the feeling that comes along with the vision), you can at a later time recreate the desired feeling by repeating that small movement.

How well do you take compliments from your partner? Compliments build your confidence in your positive qualities so accept them gracefully and make sure you enjoy the moment!

Sometimes though, the worst feedback we receive is of course that which we give ourselves. In order to maintain your confidence levels, it is important to get rid of all self-defeating thoughts.  Take action, why not put money in a jar every time you have a negative thought about yourself or doubt your abilities? Do whatever it takes to remove these negative thoughts from your mind.  Negative people on the other hand, are another matter entirely.  Avoid them if you can or alternatively question whether you need that person around if they are causing you to be stressed every time you meet them.

Ultimately, it’s all about creating balance in your life.  If you focus on positive thoughts and try to remove negative influences, you will be rewarded with renewed levels of energy and drive both on a personal and business level.

Best of luck with that!

Mike on October 21st, 2011

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IF….. written in 1895 by  Rudyard Kipling.

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IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
‘ Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!

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When I’ve struggled with something in the past, I’ve often think of this, a copy of which I keep on my wall. Obviously of its time, the sentiment appears to me to have universal appeal-but let me know what you think…

Best wishes to you, wherever you are.

Mike

Mike on June 5th, 2011

This is just fantastic. For anyone who has been there…….you know who you are!

Mike on June 4th, 2011

Every so often you’ll come across somebody who is completely satisfied with their lot. Then, one day, something happens to upset the equilibrium. Perhaps new skills are required and confidence takes a knock. Although acquiring new skills can represent a temporary hurdle, sometimes the bigger problem is the lack of confidence.

Sometimes we make jobs much bigger than they are as a way of diverting attention to our anxiety instead of trying to face our goals. Whenever you try something new and you feel like you run the risk of failing, you can cut your anxiety down by pinpointing what it is you really have to get done and in what order. If you do fail to achieve something, try again- Failure isn’t an end. It’s very much part of the learning process. Chances are your first bite was too big, try smaller steps until you taste success, then celebrate it and off you go-revitalised.

By dividing the overall process into smaller pieces, and then by acknowledging and completing each task in turn, you can start to rebuild your confidence. Start with the most manageable task and when you’re rewarded by success, celebrate! Make the celebration of success a focus. Write it down. Get it done. Then cross it out and put a star next to it. You’ve started a journey on the road to self-confidence.

Experts say it takes 28 days to form a new habit, and even longer to ditch an old one. If you don’t have that kind of time, try to eradicate habits such as “I’ve always done it this way,” or “I’ll never remember.” –just go for it!

Remember, self-confidence flows from positive actions, so aim for the stars but take realistic steps along the way!

Mike on June 1st, 2011


…That’s my favorite quote from this compilation. I hope you enjoy this video as much as I have.

PS This is the book that Will refers to in the video……READ ONLINE HERE

Mike on November 21st, 2010