Self-Confidence through Writing

For some, writing may seem like the least likely source of self-confidence possible.  With the correct approach, it can be surprisingly effective.
Think about the last time your self-confidence hit a low.  Maybe a co-worker got the promotion you had been hopeful for or a relationship ended.  Remember all of the feelings that got in the way of a positive self-image.  When you are faced with those moments, you need a way to get all of those bad feelings out.  Writing can be the perfect way to clear your mind and increase your confidence.     

Writing a journal can be a cathartic experience, meaning that it allows you to liberate pent-up emotions.  Dwelling on unpleasant feelings can be a vicious confidence killer.  You do not need any special equipment to begin a journal.  Grab a few sheets of loose-leaf paper and a pen and start writing.  You can also sit down at your computer, open a new manuscript and start typing.  The important thing is to get those feelings down on paper.   

After you have written about a particularly disquieting experience or nagging feelings of self-doubt, destroy your words.  Tear the paper into tiny pieces, or use it as kindling in the fireplace.  The more hands-on the process, the better. Writing that focuses on positive experiences can also build confidence in a hands-on way.  Create a list of your ten greatest qualities or five biggest accomplishments.  Write it on high-quality paper using your best writing or print it in a fancy font.  Then post it in a location where you’ll see it every day.     While you write about bad memories and unpleasant experiences to purge the negative feelings from your mind, writing about some of your greatest moments can also have an impact on your self-confidence.  Think of it as a memoir in progress.  Look back on your positive memories whenever you need to boost your self confidence. 

If you’ve just been through a tough time, think about how empowering it would be to help others who are facing the same state of affairs.  You will also gain self-confidence if you are seen as an expert on a topic, whether you’re writing about fishing or finance.  So the next time you feel down, consider picking up a pen for a much-needed self-confidence boost. 

It really works!